The other night I was tucking my daughter into bed and told her ‘Have a great day tomorrow’. I wouldn’t see her until the next night. I only have to go in the office two days a week, but those days I am gone from 6:00 am until 6:00 pm. My daughter said back to me, ‘You have a great day too Mommy, but I know you won’t’. ‘What do you mean by that?’ I asked. She said ‘You never have a good day at work’. I realized she was right. I never really do have a ‘good’ day. My days are ‘okay’. There are some good parts to my job. There are times when I have a real sense of accomplishment. I like most of the people I work with and enjoy the team dynamic. I work for a very large corporation and lead a team of 11 people who are spread out across the country. I spend most of my day on the phone, responding to emails and putting out fires. To get real work accomplished I have to play the political game, cut through yards of red tape and constantly massage egos on a daily basis. By the end of day I am drained, so when I get home and my family asks me how my day was, I always say ‘it was okay’, or ‘it was fine’ in a tired voice. Never do I say ‘I had a great day’. I started thinking, what kind of message does this give my kids? When they think of work, they think ‘yuck’. Is this what I want for my kids? For them to grow up and go to a job that is just ‘okay’? Is this what I want for my self? The answer to both, of course, is no. Right now, I cannot leave my job. I need it to pay the bills and to provide for my family. I have a pretty good job, especially in this economy. I am thankful for this job. If I inherited a million dollars tomorrow, would I quit? Absolutely! Since, I probably won’t have a million dollars drop into my lap anytime soon, I still need to work. So, what are my other choices? I can look for another job, which would most likely be very similar to what I do now. I can start a new career at a very reduce salary. Or I can stay at my job and just decide ‘I am going to have a Great Day!’ Nothing is perfect, things go wrong, people get upset. But does that need to drag me down? No, I can choose to view things in what ever light I choose. I have learned that sometimes what I perceive as a ‘bad thing’, turn out to be a ‘good thing’. Everyday I just need to keep reminding myself that ‘events’ happen, they are not necessarily bad or good. I just need to stay open, stay calm and stay happy. It is my choice. Next time I come home from work and my family asks me how my day was, I am going to say ‘Great!’.
March 2009
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